Today is our first wedding anniversary. One year ago today, I spent the morning running around with my friends getting hair and making up done, posing for some lovely photos, standing under the chuppah with my greatest friend, and dancing the night away at the biggest party with the biggest vibe I have ever attended.
I can’t believe how the time has flown.
You know that feeling you get on New Year’s Eve? “I can’t believe a whole year has gone by. So fast. Again!” and then you start to wonder what you’ve achieved in the past year? That’s kind of what it feels like on our first wedding anniversary. A whole year has gone by, I can’t even begin to believe it! Except there is so much we have done, learned, experienced and achieved.
It partly feels as if it were yesterday; we all remember it so clearly. Yet at the same time it feels like it’s been this way forever. Living together, doing mundane things like groceries, cooking dinner and paying rent. Maybe the fact that we’ve settled (hey, it took time) shows how good things really are. We’re lucky to eat three real meals a day (or more! And not just the toasted cheese many assumed we’d live off), have a flat to call our (kind of) own, and each have good jobs. Among many other things we are very lucky to have.
What I love more and more about relationships is that you just never stop learning about each other (which makes sense if you think how much people grow and learn about themselves as each day goes by). This year we have gone through some of the toughest times. There were fights, there were arguments, and plenty stresses; but they were all learning curves and we’re so lucky that things that could have drawn us apart, has only brought us closer together. That in retrospect it seems like a great accomplishment in and of itself.
An element of it really is being married to your best friend, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. When you wake up together, want to share the latest/greatest/most important news with one another (which to others may or may not be great or important at all), be the first to tell them a secret, tell them your deepest darkest fears (or slightest concerns). They’re the person who’ll love you forever no-matter how silly you dress, fat or wrinkly you might get (one day), they won’t judge the rubbish tv you watch or music you listen too, whether you talk in your sleep, forget to wash your plate or fart in the middle of the night. They’re the single most important person to you, you make each other better people, and you always strive to make each other happy.
I woke up feeling oddly emotional today, which was really strange for me because I didn’t even shed a tear at the wedding. I was too happy and too excited for what was still to come. Greg joked and said it was my emotions catching up with me, but I think the difference is that then I was excited for what was to come without really knowing what that was (you prepare yourself, and think you know, but no-one can really prepare you for something like this. It’s really one big learning curve). Now, a year later, I know a little bit more about what marriage really is than I did on my wedding day. It may only have been a year, which seems a blip on the radar of what’s still to come, but I’m looking forward to the years ahead filled with smile, happy memories, good times and learning we have lying ahead of us.